When friends make plans, she hopes they will cancel. When her husband wants to go out, she makes excuses to avoid any activities.
Ice skating in Central Park is difficult when it is 78 degrees. I was in New York last month and I watched the ice skaters in Central Park slashing through puddles of water. It was quite a funny site, until a young child would inevitably fall and not only have the bruises from the hard ice underneath, but also have very wet clothes.
We used to call them “moody.” Now we call them “hangry.” I have even seen T-shirts with funny hangry messages on them. Sometimes, because I’m a psychotherapist, moody, hangry people ask me if they could be bi-polar.
I have always said that Holiday time is like adding a part-time job to our already busy lives. We don’t want anyone to feel forgotten at Christmas, we all want to enjoy more intricately made meals, and we either are striving to be more in-the-moment with those we love, or we are dreading spending time with those we are mostly able to avoid at all other times of the year. Both create new stressors.
Holidays usually involve more “partying” on some level, and for those who might be prone to addictions - including sugar here for everyone who thought this wasn’t going to apply to them- it’s especially difficult as addictions can be set off by Holiday fun.
Anxiety impacts lives in a unique way—like an unseen torture. Anxiety chooses a place to land and—just like that—it becomes necessary for life’s decisions to be built around the anxiety. It takes a spontaneous, open life and builds a box around it that gets smaller and smaller if the anxiety is left untreated.
Any therapist will tell you that depression can be palpable. You can feel it in the room. The heaviness sits between you and your client, making her harder to reach, time move slower, and your eyes feel like closing from the weight of it.
If this is what it's like for the therapist, imagine how much deeper it feels for the one living it.