We used to call them “moody.” Now we call them “hangry.” I have even seen T-shirts with funny hangry messages on them. Sometimes, because I’m a psychotherapist, moody, hangry people ask me if they could be bi-polar.
I have always said that Holiday time is like adding a part-time job to our already busy lives. We don’t want anyone to feel forgotten at Christmas, we all want to enjoy more intricately made meals, and we either are striving to be more in-the-moment with those we love, or we are dreading spending time with those we are mostly able to avoid at all other times of the year. Both create new stressors.
Holidays usually involve more “partying” on some level, and for those who might be prone to addictions - including sugar here for everyone who thought this wasn’t going to apply to them- it’s especially difficult as addictions can be set off by Holiday fun.
Anxiety impacts lives in a unique way—like an unseen torture. Anxiety chooses a place to land and—just like that—it becomes necessary for life’s decisions to be built around the anxiety. It takes a spontaneous, open life and builds a box around it that gets smaller and smaller if the anxiety is left untreated.
Any therapist will tell you that depression can be palpable. You can feel it in the room. The heaviness sits between you and your client, making her harder to reach, time move slower, and your eyes feel like closing from the weight of it.
If this is what it's like for the therapist, imagine how much deeper it feels for the one living it.
While living in temporary housing there is a lot to complain about. I don’t have my furniture, books, or most of my clothes. I am sitting and sleeping on rented furniture that isn’t very comfortable (and I try not to think about not knowing who else has rented it). My husband and I are sharing the smallest living space since we first got married 27 years ago
Whatever you are doing, working towards, hoping for...don't be afraid to make the first move. Sure it could open up to a brick wall but after a few attempts, you will find one that seems to catapult you further on your path or even helps you define your path.
My lovely book group recently read "Endurance," a book about the famous 1914 Antarctic exploration that became a two year ordeal of survival. This adventure in reading has made me wonder where all of the explorers have gone.